Empowering Couples & Individuals to Navigate Betrayals, Cultural Differences, & Neurodivergence

Couples Therapy

Based in South Burlington and Montpelier, Vermont plus New Hampshire Online

You deserve to feel good in your relationships.

You know, deep inside, that there is a better way.

Being in a relationship today can feel overwhelming. Between work, family, and the constant buzz of daily life, losing touch with yourself and your partner is easy. Add in things like ADHD, anxiety, cultural differences, or the pain of betrayals, and it can feel like the connection you crave is out of reach. If you struggle to juggle it while staying connected, you’re not alone—and there’s a way forward.

Here are the top reasons people often seek support…

  • Many couples face challenges communicating their needs effectively and resolving conflicts. If you struggle and need help connecting or constantly misunderstand each other, seeking guidance on improving communication can make a significant difference

  • Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship but can be fragile and easily shaken. Whether rebuilding trust after a betrayal or addressing suspicions and insecurities, couples counseling can provide support and strategies for navigating trust issues together.

  • Feeling disconnected from your partner emotionally or physically can be distressing. Whether it's a lack of intimacy, sexual difficulties, or feeling like you're growing apart, counseling can help you rediscover and strengthen the bond you share. Additionally, understanding compatibility in a relationship is crucial for long-term success. Couples often seek counseling to assess compatibility, address differences in personality or values, and navigate conflicts arising from incompatible traits or goals

You’re right, there is a better way.

√ Empowered Communication: Enhance your ability to communicate confidently, guided by self-awareness and intuition. 

√ Shared Vision: Gain clarity on your desires and articulate them boldly. Align your goals to strengthen your bond and create a roadmap for your shared future.

√ Mutual Fulfillment: Experience the satisfaction of truly seeing, hearing, and valuing each other. Foster mutual respect and appreciation to deepen your connection and support each other fully.

Imagine a relationship with…

The Process

2. Deepen Your Understanding & Strengthen Your Skills

Meet weekly or bi-weekly with Kali through telehealth or in Montpelier, VT. Together, you'll explore the patterns influencing your relationship, identifying what helps and what hinders your connection. You'll practice research-based Gottman tools alongside mindfulness and somatic approaches, developing skills that you can continue to use long after therapy concludes.

1. Reach Out & Discover if This is the Right Fit for You

Book your FREE consultation or fill out my client booking form. This first step is pressure-free and straightforward. It’s just a chance for us to connect, discuss your goals, and determine if working together feels like the right fit. Whether you’re hoping to improve communication, strengthen trust, or feel more connected in your daily life, this call provides an opportunity to share what’s on your mind and learn how I can support you and your relationship moving forward.

3. Strengthen Communication & Rebuild Connection

Using a brain/body approach that incorporates Brainspotting, Attachment theory, and parts work, combined with Gottman Method strategies, you and your partner can break free from repeating cycles and unresolved experiences that keep you disconnected. As you strengthen your communication, you’ll also align on shared values, navigate daily stress more smoothly, and build the foundation you need for your long-term goals.

4. Grow Into the Secure, Fulfilling Relationship You Want

Step into the kind of relationship you know is possible—one that feels grounded, loving, and deeply connected. By implementing Gottman practices for communication and trust, you will enhance your sense of worth, safety, and fulfillment, both individually and as a couple.

 Hi! I’m Kali

Couples Therapist, Certified Brainspotting Therapist

I specialize in supporting individuals and couples in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you’re exploring how neurodivergence or mental health challenges—such as ADHD, anxiety, or being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)—affect your relationship, navigating cultural differences, or working through the pain of betrayals, I’m here to help you foster clarity, connection, and healing.

Using the Gottman Method, I help couples strengthen their relationships by building essential skills like effective communication, conflict resolution, and emotional connection. For more profound healing, I incorporate Brainspotting, a brain-body approach that helps clients break through unhelpful patterns, process past traumas, and rebuild trust after betrayals or affairs. I also integrate attachment theory to explore the underlying dynamics and emotional patterns contributing to relationship challenges.

My approach empowers clients to build secure, fulfilling relationships with their partners and themselves. This includes addressing trust issues, enhancing intimacy, and exploring how cultural differences and personal values shape relationship dynamics. We’ll create a safe space to address challenges and establish a foundation for deeper connections and shared growth.

With a holistic and compassionate perspective, I guide clients in uncovering outdated beliefs, reconnecting with their emotional needs, and embracing their inner wisdom. Let’s embark on this journey together to create healthier relationships, personal growth, and a more meaningful life.

Work with me

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  • ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ "Kali creates a compassionate and supportive space while also being refreshingly honest. She's not afraid to challenge me when I need it, and that balance has been so helpful in my growth."

    R.T., Vermont

  • "We had seen another couple's therapist before, but working with Kali has been a completely different experience. Instead of just being told to schedule a weekly date night, she helped us find realistic and meaningful ways to reconnect during everyday moments, like while making coffee or picking up the kids. That shift alone made us feel more supported and hopeful. Her ability to hold space for both of us, while also offering practical tools grounded in deep therapeutic wisdom, has transformed our communication. We feel like a team again, and are also seen as individuals. Kali's work is grounded, gentle, and incredibly effective, we're so grateful to have found her."

    B.B. & L.B., Vermont

  • "Working with Kali has been profoundly enlightening and supportive. I've gained insights and experienced healing in ways I never thought possible in a short period of time."

    I.K., Vermont

  • "Kali has a calm grounding presence that allows you to do the work of brainspotting without being distracted. We did one session together and I left feeling lighter and clearer surrounding the issue I had selected to process. Brainspotting is wonderful because you can focus on a specific issue and release tension and anxiety surrounding it with as much or little talk as necessary. Kali creates an inclusive environment that is welcoming and open to all. She is good at making you feel comfortable with a new modality and gives instructions clearly in a way that doesn't distract from the experience of it all! Brainspotting with her in this session felt like a little massage for my brain. Thanks Kali!"

    J.S., Vermont

  • "We honestly couldn’t believe the progress we made in just a month. With past therapists it took half a year to get this far. Kali gives us real tools we can actually use day to day, but she also helps us go deeper when we need to. She’s straightforward in the best way—clear, kind, and compassionate. This has been the most helpful experience we’ve ever had as a couple."

    H.V. & Q. V. Vermont

  • "I have worked with talk therapists in the past, but Kali got to the root of why I struggle with healthy attachment in dating situations. I never understood my patterns until they were broken down into early attachment patterns. Kali approached it with kindness and understanding, which made me feel safe to explore what shifting to a more secure attachment would be like. With the bonus of Kali's knowledge about Branspotting, I could access those things that left me stuck in the same place for all these years. I was never good at talking through early trauma because I didn't know what to focus on. The trust built with Kali over the past months is something I had not experienced before. She is gentle in her approach and nudges change safely."

    E.J., Vermont

  • "Working with Kali has been a truly transformative experience for our relationship. She provides a safe and welcoming environment for tackling tough conversations, teaches practical communication tools, and helps us find ways to support each other's dreams and goals. We've grown so much together thanks to her guidance."

    H.N. & E.N.

  • "I began meeting with Kali during the hardest time in my life; after a traumatic miscarriage. After less than a year of weekly appointments, I feel ready to take on motherhood with confidence and excitement. Kali helped me advocate for all of my needs, and I have become a better wife and future mother through it all; I am now expecting my first baby in less than a month!"

    A.B., Vermont

  • "Kali is a genuine and sincere individual, she strives to position herself in such a way to optimize her client's growth...She is very present and attuned to her inter-actions, which is a quality that she nurtures beyond the counseling setting."

    Andy Kelly, Clinical Advisor

  • “I attended the Mindfulness for Self-Care Workshop given by Kali Brgant at Johnson State College. Kali is a ray of sunshine! Her ability to connect with others is a true gift. Kali's energy is calm, loving, and contagious. I was amazed by her knowledge and experience in the topics covered. The workshop was a high point in my summer and I feel I will continue to benefit from it. I recommend taking part in any workshop offered by Kali."

    Shari Laidman, Vermont

  • "Working with Kali on our relationship has been transformative. Exploring our attachment patterns, delving into our childhood histories, and utilizing conflict management skills have been crucial for us to move forward together and feel great about it."

    T.T. & W.T., Vermont

Feeling disconnected as a couple doesn't have to be the norm. Let's work together to eliminate the confusion and uncover who you both are and what you truly want and how to do it together.

Get started with Kali, today.

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